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The Flake Elimination Toolkit...

Six Steps to Eliminating

Flaking, Forever!

... By Sinn

Hey guys! Sinn here—and today we’re talking about Eliminating

Flaking . Specifically, we’re talking today about my 6-Step Process to

Eliminating Flaking Forever .

The first thing we have to talk about is: What is Flaking?

#1 Type of Flaking: The Girl Doesn’t Call

Back

So flaking is generally defined in the pick up world as, when a girl either

doesn’t call you back or doesn’t meet up, or both. So flaking happens when

you get a phone number and you get to the point where a girl has complete

control and interaction.

This is one of the reasons that I like to focus on same-night lays more,

because this is the one point where no matter how well you’re doing with a girl

and no matter how much she likes you, you can lose every interaction because

she has the decision whether or not she’s going to pick up your calls, whether

or not she’s going to call you back and whether or not she’s actually going to

meet up with you.

So it is kind of the dangerous tipping point of an interaction, going from

meeting to beginning a sexual relationship. One of the things to keep in mind

is that flaking is usually your fault.

Sometimes girls have real stuff in their life but for the most part, if you

make a good enough first impression, you’re not going to get a whole lot of

flaking.

So the first type of flaking we’ll talk about is where girls will not pick

up the phone . So the first thing that happens is that you get a phone number

and you call her, you leave a message and she doesn’t call you back. You send

a text message and it goes un-responded or you get her on the phone and she

says, “Hey, let me call you back;” and she never calls back; or she responds to

the text messages once or twice but not really in any consistent pattern. So

that’s really, really high level flaking.

What that means is you do a good enough job upfront and we’re going

to talk about that a little bit because in my 6-Step Process, three steps are

done with the girl there in person. So half the method of getting rid of flakes

happens in the initial pick up; and so just a couple little things you can do will

make sure that you don’t get flaky numbers.

Like I honestly believe I don’t get flakes anymore. A lot of people say

like: Oh, if you’re not getting enough flakes you’re not getting enough pussy ; I

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have sex with 4 – 10 girls a month, every month and I haven’t had a flake in

probably like a year and a half.

Now, does that mean that I’ve never had a girl not show up for a

specific-like thing, or cancelled at the last minute because her mom got sick or

she had to go to the airport; no, of course not. What it means is that every girl

that I’ve gotten a phone number from has met up at least.

Of course, that doesn’t mean I’ve closed every girl, it doesn’t mean I

have sex with all of them, but every girl I’ve gotten a phone number from in

the last two years has met up at some point. This is kind of my thing - phone

game and qualification are very intermingled and linked and those are kind of

two strong areas of mine; and the things that I really focus on in the 6 Steps

to Eliminating Flakes.

So the first step : You’re not getting a response. The first thing is you

probably had a weak interaction, but there are things you can do to increase

the chances of getting her to at least return communication. The first one I like

is what’s called Hook Voice Mails .

Hook voice mails are real simple; I have one where I go “Hey! Oh my

god, the funniest thing happened, call me back” and give them the phone

number.

Alternatively I’ll say, “Oh my God, I ran into a friend of yours today and

I didn’t know that you knew…” then I’d cut the message off. I got that from

ToeCutter. He would call a girl and go “Oh! After you left I was talking to the

bartender and he said that you…” and then the message will cut off—( ping)

hang up. That’s something you can definitely do; it’s a little transparent, it’s a

little gamey but when a girl’s not returning calls or texts, it’s a good strategy

because at the very least she’ll call out of a sense of intrigue and a kind of

human curiosity.

The same way that I was watching that movie, The Devil Wears Prada,

on an airplane one time and it’s a horrible movie, awful, but I got off the plane

like 20 minutes before the end and then I actually had to find the movie on my

Direct TV to finish the movie. There’s something about open loops; they are a

great way to get girls to call you back, you can also send text messages and a

great text message to get a response is something that Savoy came up with,

which is “Wow, last night I met your twin.” That’s a really good one.

Another one that I like to use is just random nonsense, like I’ve miss-

texted. This is a real good one; I did this with a girl, Christiana, who was the

original HB Perfect on my blog. Like she had gotten cold in the middle of while

we were talking, and so I sent her a text message, it went like “Hey! The key

is in the usual place. Wake me up when you get here.” She assumes that was

to another girl; again intrigued, she was like “Hey! You sent this to the wrong

person.” I like the technique of sending a text message that’s obviously to the

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wrong person and the wrong person happens to be a girl that you’re seemingly

having a relationship with.

Other things I’ll send are like: “Hey! Will be 15 minutes late. Oh my god,

remember that thing we saw on the lawn the other day, I saw the exact same

thing.” It’s an obvious inside joke, but a lot of open loops; that’s the first thing

to do when you’re getting really bad flaking.

Now, are you going to be able to turn every one of those around- no.

But you get a high percentage of at least intrigue and they’ll start to come

back. That’s where phone games kind of come into effect. So use your texts

and your calls to build intrigue if girls are not calling you back. Start to get a

little more intriguing, a little open-looped and a little more gamey.

Basically you’re trying to trigger a response, because if you can’t get the

girl to pick up the phone or to pick up a text, then you’re not going to be able

to get her in person.

So one of the other things I think about, is you always want to be going

up the intimacy ladder and the Intimacy Ladder is a concept that I kind of

came up with; basically the intimacy ladder goes from weeks on Facebook or

MySpace, or Pokes , whatever they are; then it goes to MySpace Messages,

Facebook Messages and social networking sites, right. Now after that you have

email, from email you have instant messenger, from instant messenger you

have texting, from texting you have phone, from phone you have in person.

So we always want to be striving to go up that ladder. A lot of times you

have to go down to go up though. Like sometimes a lot of girls will text you

and they’ll go “What’s your MySpace?” So I still don’t give out my MySpace

and I still don’t You have a MySpace ; but I think you can go down to go up.

Like the more ways of communication you get, like especially MySpace's

or Facebook's, if you have one of those ask the girl what hers is, because then

she’ll get what yours is and you can start to use yours kind of as a tool in your

long-term plan.

Plus it’s another way to communicate with her which is really low

investment, so if she’s not returning calls or texts, you can always send her a

MySpace Message or something like that; which isn’t weird and it’s really low

investment and then you can regain her from there.

So you always want to be aware of where you are on the intimacy

ladder and whether you need to go down to go back up, as opposed to going

constantly up.

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#2 Type of Flaking: Girl Won’t Show Up

Let’s talk a little bit about the second type of flaking: Where She

Won’t Show Up .

Where she won’t show up to meet you, that’s the flaking I really like to

address; because for me, if I can get a girl on the phone, I will get her to meet

in person and if I get a girl in person, I will have sex with her eventually. Like

that’s very ingrained into my psychology now and I think that it's something

that’s true with everyone, because you have to be in the game to win.

You see, if you can’t get a girl to continuously see you, you can’t have

sex with her. Sure, you can’t have sex with her through the phone and

through text messaging, but that’s nothing but a masturbatory aid, isn’t it?

So how do you deal with a girl that’s flaking? When a girl doesn’t want

to meet up with you, then what?

Well first you have to look at the fact that she’s a girl and she has her

own life- that’s something that people don’t pay enough attention to.

You have to understand that the girl has different things going on, she’s

got friends, she’s got family, she’s got work, she’s got interests, hobbies and

she’s got other guys in her life. Sometimes she just flakes just because she’s

got something else going on. So you have to differentiate a flake from a girl

who’s legitimately busy.

A flake—and again, I’m not using this as some kind of code, Oh, I’ve

had girls that have been legitimately busy ; but the way you respond to flaking

and the way you respond to girls that are legitimately busy are two separate

things.

So the way you respond to the girls who are legitimately busy is, you

figure out what they’re doing; like when the girl says “ Oh! I’d love to come

tonight, but I just realized I made plans with my friends who are in town and I

forgot all about it. They called up at the last minute and we’re going to this

concert. ” That’s probably a legitimate thing. Whereas if the girl goes “ Oh! I’m

kind of tired and I don’t really feel that well. ” that’s usually a flake. The more

specific the excuse I find the less likely that she’s actually flaking.

So with flaking you have to actually deal with the hidden meaning

behind the flake. Like when she says, “ Oh! I’m tired. ” then you can actually

use some phone flaking techniques which I’ll talk about a little bit later; or you

can also alternatively use a couple of other tactics to turn things like that

around. So that’s the idea, legitimate excuses.

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